Mirror, Mirror on the Wall!

In business, organizations hold regular meetings to assess productivity, address shortcomings, and strategize for improvement. Employees review their performance, evaluate successes and failures, and set goals for the future. 

Yet, in marriage, the most important partnership of all, many couples rarely take the time to reflect, assess, and adjust. If companies can prioritise accountability to thrive, shouldn’t couples do the same to ensure their relationship remains strong, intimate, and fulfilling?

Marriage is a living, evolving bond. Over time, couples go through changes, financial shifts, career growth, parenting demands, and personal transformations. Without periodic reflection, intimacy can fade under the weight of unresolved issues, miscommunication, or emotional distance.

Accountability conversations thus become necessary for couples to ask:

• What did we do well this month?

• What challenges did we face, and how did we handle them?

• How are we doing emotionally, spiritually, and physically?

• Are we prioritizing our intimacy, or have we become distant?

Just like a mirror reflects what is before it, couples should hold hands, stare into their relationship, and take an honest look at where they stand. This means discussing small cracks before they become deep wounds, identifying areas of improvement, and celebrating growth together.

For example, a couple may realise that their busy schedules have taken away their time for deep conversations or date nights. Instead of waiting for resentment to build, they can intentionally create time for each other to discuss the way forward in an accountability conversation.

This is very important because such conversations provide couples with several benefits. First of all, it enables couples to create a safe space to share without fear of judgment, and this has a direct impact on emotional connection.

Moreover, through open conversations, accountability can remove secrecy, prevent hidden frustrations, and promote transparency between both couples. By this, physical intimacy is also likely to thrive naturally.

To achieve a smooth accountability conversation, couples can choose very practical ways to implement the conversation. For instance, couples can intentionally decide;

• Whether weekly or monthly, to create a dedicated moment for reflection.

• To ensure conversations are free from blame or criticism, and always focus on growth rather than shifting blame.

• To use the ‘We’ Language. Instead of “You never listen,” couples must say, “How can we improve our communication?”

This is necessary, because accountability means recognising where adjustments are needed and committing to improvement.

Quite severally, we’ve indicated under this theme, that intimacy is not just about physical closeness. Instead, it is built in conversations, understanding, and the daily commitment to nurture the relationship. 

This is very important, a relationship that lacks the will from both partners to commit to nurture has very minimal longevity. Partners are always accommodating, compromising, pretending and sometimes suffocating quietly.

Daily Grace is interested in making your relationship succeed, and we highly recommend embracing accountability, to create a love that is intentional, thriving, and deeply connected. 

You know, no relationship or marriage counsellor can save a marriage the couples are unwilling to save. 

A greater sign of your commitment to protecting your relationship and saving it from breaking down is being accountable with and to your partner consistently. 

This way issues never get to the desk of a third party. So, just as businesses review their progress to remain successful, so must you and your partner. You both must be open to change and improvement.

Hold the mirror up to your relationship, reflect, and make the necessary adjustments. Because a love that grows is a love that lasts.

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