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Behind the Glow
They walk into the room, commanding attention without trying. Their smiles are warm, their outfits flawless, their achievements impressive. Everyone wants to be around them, follow them and lean on them.
However, people often assume that such people don’t break, because strong, beautiful, successful people aren’t supposed to struggle, but they do, and more often than we know, they do it quietly.
There’s a peculiar loneliness that lives behind applause. Sometimes, the very people who seem to have it all together are the ones carrying the heaviest emotional loads.
They become the fixers, the motivators, the resilient shoulders for everyone else to cry on, but when it’s their turn to fall apart, there’s silence. Not because they don’t want support, but because they’ve been cast into roles they don’t know how to rewrite. They’re the strong friends, and strength, in the world’s eyes, doesn’t need help.
Sincerely, insecurity isn’t always evidenced in worry and sadness. Sometimes it wears a perfect face, a confident laugh, a packed schedule, or an Instagram feed full of curated joy.
It’s not that they’re pretending, many high-achievers are genuinely doing well. But success doesn’t immunize anyone from doubt. It can heighten the fear of not being enough.
When you’re admired, there’s pressure to stay admired. When you’re trusted, there’s a pressure not to fall short. And when you’re the one others depend on, asking for help can feel like betrayal.
A close friend once admitted that she breaks down in the shower, because that’s the only place no one can hear her. Everyone knows her as the best at work and she said she is scared they’ll stop needing her if they see her weaknesses. Surprised as I was, that’s real, its a kind of fear that’s not rare.
What makes this insecurity so dangerous is that it’s invisible. People rarely check on the strong one. And when they do open up, they’re often met with disbelief or discomfort. So they retreat.
They cope through performance, overachievement, and emotional isolation. But no matter how good you are at managing appearances, the inner critic never sleeps.
If this is you, or someone you know, please understand this, vulnerability is not weakness. You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to smile when your heart is heavy. And you are not less admirable because you feel insecure.
Your honesty might be what liberates someone else from the silent pressure of perfection. Growth doesn’t mean you stop hurting. It means you stop hiding. You are not a superhero. So, don’t be afraid to be human.
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