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When Love Competes
An old Ghanaian highlife song asks a difficult question: “If your wife and your mother are both drowning, and you can save only one, who would it be?”
This question challenges our logical thinking and touches our emotions. In that moment, love, duty, and morality clash. Between what feels right and what seems fair lies the real issue; prioritisation versus discrimination.
In life, we often face this tension. Choosing one thing usually means neglecting another temporarily. However, we are often judged by what we choose first, not by what we love.
The truth is, prioritization isn’t about loving less. It’s about making wise choices within limits. It involves timing, context, and purpose. Every choice reflects what matters now, not necessarily what matters most forever.
Consider this: the man at the shore doesn’t love his mother less if he saves his wife, nor does he betray his wife if he saves his mother. He makes a difficult, situational choice that aligns with his understanding of duty, consequence, and conscience.
However, the world often misinterprets such choices. People mistake prioritisation for partiality. They see discrimination where there’s discernment. They call it unfairness when it’s actually a focus.
True prioritisation isn’t about preference; it’s about what’s needed at the moment to maintain balance, order, or purpose. A farmer prioritises the rainy season over the dry, not because the dry season is unimportant, but because the rains give life to his seeds.
The same applies in relationships, career, ministry, and life itself. There are times to focus on family and times to focus on destiny. Wisdom lies in knowing which season you’re in.
But let’s be honest, prioritisation can be painful. Choosing one means not choosing another. The heart often aches where the mind is firm. You can’t save everyone, attend to everything, or please all sides at once.
Still, without priority, chaos ensues. The person who tries to give equal attention to everything ends up accomplishing nothing. The secret is to choose without guilt and love without measure.
We must also ensure that prioritisation doesn’t become discrimination. The difference is subtle but important. Prioritisation is guided by purpose and context; discrimination is driven by bias and ego.
One builds order, the other breeds division. When your choices consistently disregard fairness or compassion, you’ve crossed the line. True maturity is when you can prioritise people or things differently without demeaning any of them.
Life will always demand decisions that test our balance of love and logic. Whether it’s between family and work, comfort and calling, or passion and principle, your priorities will reveal your values.
They show the world what you consider sacred. The key is to keep your heart pure while your choices remain firm. As long as love guides your motives, prioritisation will never become discrimination.
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