Inspiring Change Every Day with Grace
You Deserve Better
It’s strange how three letters: Y E and S can become so heavy. You say it with a smile, sometimes with a nod, other times through clenched teeth.
Inside, you’re screaming no. You’re overwhelmed, tired, emotionally drained, but still, you say yes. Again and again and again. At first, it feels like kindness, then, obligation. Eventually, it feels like a betrayal of yourself.
There’s an invisible line we’re all supposed to draw around ourselves. It’s called a boundary. But when you’re constantly afraid of disappointing others, being misunderstood, or losing your place in someone’s life, that line gets blurry.
Saying no becomes risky. You give yourself several delusional reasons to justify saying yes. Yet, every yes that goes against your inner truth chips away at your emotional security. Every yes that should have been a no makes you a little more resentful, a little more distant, a little more lost in the crowd you’re trying to please.
Many people who struggle with boundaries are not weak, they are emotionally tuned in, empathetic, and often deeply loyal. But that same emotional intelligence, when entangled with insecurity, turns into self-abandonment.
You begin to equate your value with how much you do for others, how much you give, and how available you are. And when no one reciprocates with the same intensity, you feel used, unseen, or even disposable.
This doesn’t mean people are always taking advantage, it might just mean you haven’t taught them how to love you right.
Just one day she declined an invite to rest, from being there for everyone else but herself, a close friend told her, she had changed. She was shocked and it hurt her more than all the exhaustion she’d been carrying. But the actual change was her realization of her mistakes. She learnt to understand that pleasing people is not the same as being loved.
When saying no comes from a place of self-respect, it’s actually an invitation. It invites people to meet the real you, not just the version of you that says yes to staying likeable.
If you find yourself stuck in the yes trap, start by sitting with your emotions before answering. Do you feel pressured, guilty, scared? What would you choose if you weren’t afraid?
Practice saying no with gentleness. “I’d love to, but I’m not available,” is enough. You don’t owe people an essay on why you need rest. You owe yourself the chance to show up in your life with peace, not performance.
If your voice shakes when you set a boundary, you’re still doing it right. It means you’re showing up. And the more you practice, the stronger that voice becomes.
Please remember, that self-worth isn’t proven by how many people you please. It’s proven by how much of yourself you’re willing to protect, even when it’s hard.
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Have you ever said yes when your whole body was begging you to say no? What was the fear behind it, and how did it affect you?
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