Inspiring Change Every Day with Grace
Most relationships today begin with need. Need for comfort, need for access, need for advantage or need for belonging. This is not inherently wrong, it is human. But when relationships are built only on what can be extracted in the present, they often collapse when circumstances change.
Many people, in their moments of sober reflections, keep asking “Why don’t my relationships last?”. It may interest you to know that the appropriate question should be “Who am I becoming within my relationships?”
Most of the time, we are quick to mention effective communication, financial literacy, critical thinking, stress management, inter - alia, and cognitive thinking as the most important life skills.
Many relationships begin with comfort, chemistry, or convenience. They feel good in the moment, and that feeling can be persuasive. But feelings, though important, are not always directional. They tell you what is happening now, not necessarily where you are going.
There is something undeniably captivating about intensity in relationships. The fast connection, the deep conversations, and the overwhelming sense of closeness feels great.
Most people in relationships are of the view that how deeply they feel is a sign of a great connection...
Respect is one of the non- negotiables for people in relationships, yet it is often misunderstood by many people. Some equate respect with politeness, admiration, or simply avoiding conflict.
As humans, pain in one form or another in the journey of life is inevitable. But the kind of pain which emanates from things that were expected to happen, yet didn't unfold is almost unbearable.
A lot of people wonder why some relationships, though they seem over, yet the people involved just can't help but still stay in touch.
Oftentimes, most relationships end in bitterness because the people involved have not mastered the art of letting go without hate.
Like many people, I used to assume that if someone is kind, sincere, or well-intentioned, then the connection must naturally belong in my life for the long term. Growing up, one of the most difficult and uncomfortable truths I have come to agree with is that goodness alone is not enough to sustain a relationship.