Chasing a Mirage

Control is one of those things we all chase without even realising it. Deep down, every human heart longs to feel secure, to know what tomorrow holds, to decide the course of our lives without interference. 

But the truth? Control is slippery. It’s like holding sand in your palm, the tighter you grip it, the faster it slips away. Yet, we can’t deny that it shapes almost everything we do.

When you think of control, what comes to mind? Is it authority over others? Is it the power to choose for yourself? Or maybe it’s the calm assurance that life won’t spiral out of your hands. 

For some, control is freedom; for others, it’s pressure. Psychologists even argue that humans naturally need a sense of control to feel fulfilled. Without it, we feel anxious, vulnerable, or even powerless.

But control is not always what it looks like. A person can have wealth, status, or influence and still feel utterly out of control inside. Another person may have little by the world’s standards, yet walk with peace because they’ve mastered self-control. This shows us that control isn’t just about how much power you hold over the outside world but about how much alignment you have inside yourself.

Let’s be honest, most frustrations we battle daily come from losing control. When traffic holds us up, when bills pile, when someone betrays us, when life flips suddenly, our instinct is to resist. 

We hate feeling helpless. But maybe control isn’t about fighting what we can’t change. Maybe it’s about learning where our power truly lies, and where it doesn’t. Epictetus, the Stoic philosopher, once said: “It’s not things that upset us, but our judgments about things.” That’s the wisdom of shifting from external control to internal control.

The danger is when control turns dark. A need to dominate people, manipulate situations, or silence others. That kind of control is addictive, but it always backfires. Why? Because no one can truly control another soul. 

People eventually break free, rebel, or withdraw. Real control, the kind that lasts, is about cultivating strength in yourself. The most powerful leaders, friends, or lovers aren’t those who force obedience, but those who inspire it.

And here’s the paradox, sometimes the greatest form of control is letting go. You don’t need to control every outcome. You don’t need to win every battle. You don’t need to hold on so tight. Some of the best things in life only happen when you surrender; love, trust, growth and peace. It takes courage to say, “This part is not mine to control, and that’s okay.”

So, what is control really? It’s not domination, it’s not micromanaging, it’s not knowing the future. Control is knowing yourself enough to stay grounded no matter what storms rage around you. 

It’s choosing your response even when you can’t choose your circumstance. It’s being powerful enough to influence your world, but humble enough to release what’s beyond your reach.

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